I often listen as people talk for any body metaphors. I investigate: what does that communicate about their tension patterns? Where they are restricting movement? Where does it indicate they need bodywork?
Stiff upper lip—If a person is hiding their feelings in a situation they don’t like, I work on rigid facial muscles. Also, grin and bear it and gritting their teeth, often point to putting up with something unpleasant. I work on softening tension around the jaw, neck and shoulders, and make sure this session is one where they get to express their needs and get them met.
With chronic or persistent neck pain, I may ask, “Who or what is a pain in the neck in your life right now?” I can tell when they figure it out, by how the tension leaves. A person’s shoulder may be raised higher on one side, if they have a chip on their shoulder. Do they have resentments, or feelings of superiority they can release from their body?
On the other hand, if someone claims to have their head on their shoulders, I ask, “Then, where is your neck?” We work on lengthening, stretching neck muscles. I may see a rigid forward neck position in someone who is always sticking their neck out or wanting to get ahead. Stiff-necked means someone is not willing to concede: I work to release their neck, so it can be supple and free.
Are they barely holding themselves together or always backing down in an argument? I might see back pain, rounded or contracted shoulders, or a posterior tilt to the pelvis.
If someone can’t stomach it, would gentle abdominal massage help?
When a person states they are bending over backwards for their boss, I work to release low and mid back muscles, quads and hamstrings, psoas muscles, and teach Body Mapping of the spine.
I recommend Louise Hay’s You Can Heal Your Life.
If this leaves you feeling you don’t have a leg to stand on, then put your best foot forward, and see if you can find your own body metaphors!